The World's Projections

Last week, Malea wrote about the self image we should have of ourselves.  Of how we are ‘made in the image of God’ and are thus beautiful, because God is beautiful.  She’s right.  We are beautiful creatures, beautiful humans, because God made us so, but the world likes to tell us differently.

Standing in line at any checkout counter in any grocery store, there are magazines with models on them, posing.  Thin waists, long legs, large busts, and narrow faces, we are led to believe they are the image of beauty, and something we should strive for. You’ve probably heard this before, but it won’t hurt anyone to hear it again.  The models on the covers of the magazines don’t look anything like themselves, they are airbrushed and photo shopped to what lots of people consider near perfection.

In fact, what they look like is impossible for almost all women – the world wide!  One major issue is waist size.  It seems like every girl today is obsessed with the desire to be thinner, and they will go to major lengths to attain it.  The waist size of the magazine models, or what seem to be the models, is totally unattainable for the majority of girls in the United States.  Anorexia is the leading psychiatric cause of death in the United States, including depression.  This is one of the trends that needs to stop before it can cause more damage than it already has.

Another thing I notice every day is the amount of makeup teen girls wear.  It’s ridiculous!  Honestly, I think the girls just look uncomfortable.  Why wear so much makeup?  Is it because we feel self conscious without it?  Is it because we feel the world won’t accept us if we aren’t coated in color?  Or are we hiding behind a mask?

One of my favorite songs is Identity, by Lecrae.  The third verse in this song says

Got her hair done, toes, nails

is that Her? well it's hard to tell

 Identity is found in the God we trust
Any other identity will self destruct.

I love this song for the message it carries.  It reassures us that no matter what we do, nothing we have on this earth will account to anything.  It’s only in Christ that anything can give us Identity.  We don’t need to hide behind layers of makeup, behind immodest clothes, or behind our put-on personality, because God loves us for who we are, and no matter what the world says, God’s love is all that matters.

The world will tell us we are ugly and unloved, but God says that’s not true. He says ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love, I have drawn you with loving-kindness.’  (Jeremiah 31:3).  No matter what the world tells us, we can rest in the fact that God loves us; so much that He would send His only Son (my parents say I won’t understand the true sacrifice of this until I have my first child) to die for us!  How awesome is that?

Don’t listen to what the world says anymore.  Listen to what your creator, the lover of your soul says.  Listen to Jesus

I am a sixteen year old daughter

Lost in the mirror, no self esteem

But God made me in His image

And that makes me a beauty queen

Mandisa, Freedom Song, 2009

cause she's so caked up in all that make up

It's like she's tryna make up for what she ain't got 

she's a saint but so confused

cause she's been rejected by all these dudes

they tell her on a scale of 10 she's a two

but that ain't true, if she only knew

In Christ she is loved she secure and accepted

never be rejected by God who's elected her 

Her beauty is her Godliness

And she ain't gotta flaunt it cause it's obvious

Embracing Who We Are

Self-worth. This combination of two words is something I believe everyone (myself included) struggle with. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see all your faults, all of the mistakes you’ve made, everything you wish you could take back, or do you see the beautiful person that you are and are becoming? At this moment, you’re probably thinking something along the lines of;

   

“Hey, hold up there. You don’t know me, you don’t know how ugly I am or all of the bad things I’ve done.”

If this is running through your head right now, you’re absolutely right. I don’t know what you look like and I have no idea what you have done in your life.

So how can I do something so bold as to tell you that you’re beautiful? The answer to this is simple, you were created in the image of God. Genesis 1:27 says “So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female  he created them.” (NLT)

Are you a human being? Yeah, that’s what I thought. That means you were created in His image. It’s so easy to let ourselves believe what the world tries to tell us. That we’re not tall enough, skinny enough, pretty enough, strong enough, whatever the case may be. Instead of listening to these hurtful lies, next time you look in the mirror remember that God made you in His own image - no matter what the world says, you are BEAUTIFUL, you are LOVED, and you don’t have to change who you are to be accepted. This does not mean you can’t want to look nice or want to better yourself …Those things are important, too. The point is that you need to love yourself just the way you are. Jesus loves us just the way we are, which I think is pretty amazing considering that he knows everything about us ...Even the stuff we don’t want anyone to know about.

Likewise, we should try to love others just the way they are and not make fun of them for being different. The people we laugh at because they don’t live up to what the world thinks is important in a person are made in His image just as much as you are or I am. It is crucial that we remember this. I know it’s something I struggle with.

Lastly, we should ask Jesus to help us to be worthy of being made in His image. Yes, it is impossible but through what Jesus did on the cross, it doesn’t matter if we’re worthy. Then what’s the point of trying? So people who don’t know Jesus can see him through us because we are really trying to do what he wants with our lives.

Mexico Once - My Testimony Afterwards

    A couple of weeks ago, I (Sara) posted asking for prayers for a Mexico mission trip I was going on with my church, Chapel Hill Presbyterian.  I’ve been back for a week now, and so am now doing the follow up post.  
    In September, I learned the cost of the trip for both me and my dad - over 1700 dollars.  By January, we’d raised just over 600.  Not good odds.  I never actually talked to my parents, but I was considering telling them it would be okay if I didn’t go; $1100 was a lot of money that I knew we probably didn’t have.  Then, God totally paid for the whole trip through some unexpected refunds we got.  What a blessing!  God is so good.
    Sunday morning, February 20th came, and I had to be at the airport at 6am.  Everyone met and checked in and got to the gate.  Security, take off, flight, and landing were all very smooth.  Another blessing.  That afternoon, we met with the Penske trucks that were carrying all of our stuff and headed for the border.  Most years, it can take close to a half an hour to be allowed through border crossing, but this year, we got through in under 10 minutes.  We drove to the camp ground through the rutted, muddy roads, and got camp set up.  No one had forgotten a tent or something major like that, and all went smoothly.

The next day, work day one, we headed for our sites.  I was building a double house with my team, Las Guerreros Fieles, the Faithful Warriors, led by Tom Renner, and another team led by Bart.  Wegot our concrete slab down, got to know the family, and framed a good portion of the walls.
Throughout the week, the house came together with good, sound, insulated walls, a water proof roof, and doors and windows.  My favorite project was working on the roof of the house.
    As freshmen on the team, most of my similar-aged classmates had one disadvantage - pranks.  I, unfortunately, had heard some sophomores talking earlier in the year, so I was pre-warned, but I took part in the pranking.  We had my friend Stephanie looking for the left-handed hoe, and a couple other people looking for doorbells (why we would be putting doorbells in, I have no idea).  
    Every day without fail, the vendors would stop by with ponchos, hats, bags, jewelry, and other local Mexican-made goods. Most of the people on the trip, including me and my dad, bought a poncho.
    The most touching part of working was the key ceremony, where we gave the keys to the family.  We stood in a circle around the inside of the house and prayed over the keys, said words of blessing, or spoke encouragement to the family. Then, they were handed to the mom along with a Bible.  On our way out, she was crying and hugged and kissed each one of us.
    During the workday, we didn’t always have a job that needed to be completed, and that was when we played with the neighborhood kids.  There were five or so regular kids that came around.  One little girl, about 8 years of age, was named Josalina.  She had only known us a day and a half, but when she learned that we were leaving for good, not coming back, she was sobbing.  Through her tears, she prayed for us.  That was touching.  

Another thing that struck me was that these kids never complained.  They weren’t extremely well off, not by Mexican standards, no where near American standards, but I didn’t hear any “Quiero...”s (I want...).  These kids had learned what contentedness was, in ways most Americans never touched.

I told you that the theme was Ebenezer:Stone of Remembrance.  One of our assignments over the trip was to find our EBENEZER.  The ebenezer I chose was a scrap block of wood with two pesos (Mexican money, coins) nailed to it.  To me, this represents the fact that God PROVIDES.  Always, what we need - truly need, not just want - He will give it to us.  I am reminded of this in the pesos (God provided money) and in the nails.  I went to the trip 9 times out of 10 missing the actual nail.  I nailed those in smoothly and cleanly, because God gave me the strength and skills to do what was needed, whether it was nail, mix concrete, or saw wood.

All in all the two main things I learned are that GOD PROVIDES and BE CONTENT.  And the trip’s not over yet - as I reflect on what happened, God will reveal more to me, if I listen to Him, just as He will reveal to anyone who will listen and have faith. 

A Daddy's Hug

Today at church I saw a little girl on the floor with her daddy.  Lots of other people were around, and she was obviously very social, constantly running around and talking and laughing.  But every five minutes or so, she'd run back to her daddy and give him a great big hug.  He'd always hug her back, no matter how many times she went back and forth, and he'd kiss her on the head too.  This reminded me so much of the love our Father in heaven has for us.  He'll always accept us back if we come to Him, no matter what we've done, and a loving hug will be waiting for us to run to Him.

Eyeliner: How To

Eyeliner: it can either be a blessing or a curse. The trick is to know how to wear it. Before you consider attempting this daring item of makeup; (if you haven’t already) you should consider if you really want to follow through with it. I’m not kidding. This is a very serious matter. (Okay, maybe I’m making it a bit too serious) But a lot of people (myself included) have/are misused/misusing this weapon called eyeliner. Many teen girls go for the emo feel of heavy black eyeliner (which some girls can pull off nicely while others … can’t) thinking that it is the only way they can wear it but are mistaken. Pulling off eyeliner comes in only two basic steps:

1) shade/color

2) how it is applied

Eyeliner is very useful for making your eyes pop and giving the dramatic look without much effort. Before you do this however, you need to choose your weapon. Makeup is very expensive (which makes me glad I don’t wear much) so it’s easy to just stick to the cheapo, wears-off-in-seconds, smears-all-over-the-place-when-I-cry brands. In the long run, though, I have found that spending a couple more bucks to get the good stuff works better. It’s harder to figure out what colors work for you. It was hard for me anyway. It really all depends on your shade of skin and hair.

For dark hair, medium skin, and dark eyelashes: Brown-black, black, or charcoal are your best bets.

For dark hair but fairer skin: use brown, gray, or brown-black. Some can pull of black eyeliner but sticking to the before mentioned colors is safer.

For dark hair and dark skin: Chances are, your eyes already pop and look incredible but if you still wanna try your hand at eyeliner, black and dark purple will work for you. Dark purple tends to look less natural but it can also look absolutely amazing.

For fair skin and blonde or red hair: paired with a brown or brown-black mascara, brown or gray eyeliner will really make your eyes stand out.

Now that you’ve chosen your weapon; it’s time to use it! The main rule here is to start with the inside corners of your eyes for the top lid and outside corners for the bottom. My motto in this area is less is more. It will take a few tries to get it right but starting out by applying it as thin as possible works best. There are even YouTube videos out there to show you how it’s done if you don’t get it. I wear my eyeliner almost all the way around my eye but it gets thinner the closer to the inside of my eyes until there’s nothing at all. If you have fair skin and blonde or red hair, it’s best to only apply to the top lid. Otherwise, applying it to the top lid then half-way on the bottom or just in the bottom outside corner works well.

Good luck and have fun experimenting!